Monday, January 21, 2013

Happy Anniversary! Also my 100th post on this blog.

Pic from Pinterest

No, it's not an actual Anniversary!  It's just one that exists inside my head.  21 January 1984 is a date that I can't forget.  It's a date that I don't want to forget.  I have no reason to want to do that.

Without sounding too dramatic, here's some background.  I was married before.  On this date, I tied the knot with a man that I had known since I was fourteen years old.  When he died, my whole life changed.  It was sudden.  It was painful.

While the picture above is true for how I've always felt, it's not always how it turns out to be.  We don't always get to fulfill what we set out to do.  We don't always get that chance.  While we are at it, we should make each day count.  If you think that there is always a tomorrow, you're wrong.  It's today that counts.  It's NOW that matters.

I consider myself one of the lucky ones or blessed, if you prefer this word.  While I was afraid that I would never know happiness again, I did find it.
Pic from FB

It's not easy to push aside the old feelings.  It is never fun to return to a place in our past and reach for those moments.  It isn't a bad thing to do this, once in a while. Like it is, today, for me.  But I'll not let it suck me in.  I know that today is a good day to remember.  It's also a good day to be grateful for what was and, more importantly, what is.

Happy Anniversary, Doug!  It would have been 29 years today for us.  While I am not silly enough to feel sad, I am going to be silly enough to remember all the fun times we shared.   Your legacy of love lives on in the people who knew you.  This warms my heart and I am grateful that you were a huge part of my life.

I have someone new to annoy now.  I think I'm doing a good job!  Somehow I know that you are happy for me.  Somehow it is enough.


  1. Doug will be looking down on you Lita, happy that you have someone else to annoy ;-)
    Stephen and you are well matched and Im sure he gives as good as he gets <3

    1. Lyn, You're always able to say the right words for my soul. Yes, Stephen is my equal. On this, he is the best sparring partner I could ever hope for. <3

  2. I think Doug would be happy that you have found happiness with someone else. He sounds like a good man - and he wouldn't have liked for you to be sad and lonely and grieving forever for him. When you love someone, all you want is their happiness.

    Happy anniversary, dear. Your angels are smiling down on you. xoxo

    1. Didn't realise I had missed this comment. And it was so nice to see it. Loving the belated read. :) xoxoxo

    2. No worries. It was nice to get this 'surprise' :)

    3. I don't take your comments lightly. They always say something special to my heart. It was nice to see this. It was a nice surprise for me, too. :)